How Can I Catch a Cheater (Husband or Wife)?

The title may come across as a bit insensitive to some, but unfortunately, that is how life is. Relationships fall apart, and partners lose interest only to sneak around and find new romantic interests. That being said, when you know that your husband or wife is cheating on you, you are in a position to make a clear decision.

On the other hand, when you just have a feeling that your partner is cheating, but you do not know it for sure, things get a bit tricky. Some cheaters can be quite manipulative and toxic and may make you feel worse for even asking such a thing. They can make you doubt your own instincts, putting you in an emotionally vulnerable situation. That is why it is important for you to get some concrete proof before you can utter the words ‘we need to talk’.

Use a Spy App to Catch a Cheater

Stories of our entire lives are on our digital devices, especially smartphones. That is where you can find all the information you are looking for but it can be quite risky to steal their phone, unlock it, and search through all their texts, call history, and social media apps to find something incriminating. This would be especially challenging for cheaters as they have a fear of being caught, they keep their devices secured and with themselves all the time.

Instead of trying to steal their phone, you can get sms tracker apps that can monitor the activity of the target phone without revealing anything or raising any suspicions. A spy app will give you access to everything including location tracking, phone call history, sent and received texts, instant messages, browsing history, and more. You can access all the information from a web-based portal, so you do not need to worry about installing anything on your phone.

Hire a Private Detective

If you believe that your partner is sleeping around, another option to catch a cheater is to hire a private detective and get photographic evidence. This can be especially helpful if you are thinking about getting a divorce, which may result in legal court proceedings. Hard evidence can come in handy in proving your case and getting rid of a toxic person without letting him or her ruin your life even further.

Israel - Jerusalem - Yehuda Gordon, a Jerusalem based Rabbi
Yehuda Gordon is a Jerusalem-based rabbi who is charged by the Rabbinical courts to trace errant husbands who refuse to divorce their wives and so deny them access to the their rights under Jewish law. Gordon is seen here researching a husband at the Rabbinical court. (Photo by In Pictures Ltd./Corbis via Getty Images)

That being said, there are downsides to hiring a private detective. Primarily, it can be quite expensive and unless you are getting photographs, all you get is a stranger’s take on the events. Moreover, there is no contextual information that can help you understand the situation in a better way. Many times, you end up spending hundreds of dollars without learning anything of value.

Hire a Hacker to Break into Their Computer

Another way to catch a cheater is to hire a hacker who can get into your partner’s computer and retrieve the information that you are looking for. Although this can be an effective way to get the information, it may also be illegal in your jurisdiction, making all the evidence inadmissible. In fact, you may be charged with a misdemeanor or felony.

Apart from that, there are other downsides to hiring a hacker. It can be quite expensive, as professional hackers do not work for low fees. You can also be scammed quite easily as the person you hired may not be a hacker but just a poser with the ability to convince non-savvy people. Not only that, but the hacker will also most likely be a stranger with access to all the personal data and can misuse the information to your detriment.

Cheating Partner

Convince Your Cheating Partner to Admit

Confronting your partner or trying to talk to them usually does not work. They either get too defensive to admit or demonstrate manufactured outrage to manipulate you into believing that you are not a good romantic partner. However, there are circumstances where you know a bit of insistence will push them enough to admit. If your relationship has been cold for months or going downhill in terms of compatibility and mutual communication, it is easier for a partner to admit that it was not working out for them and they started to see someone else.

This can be a difficult conversation to have so you need to prepare yourself mentally and emotionally before getting into it. Ensure that you have some good points to make instead of just hurling accusations based on circumstantial evidence. It is also recommended that you make a clear decision and let your partner know about it. Otherwise, you will just leave the situation to more uncertainties, which can be quite hurtful and emotionally taxing.

Final Word

Catching a cheating husband or wife requires emotional strength, a bit of planning, and commitment to yourself. There are multiple ways to do it from confronting them to hiring a private detective, but getting a spy app is usually the best solution.


The views expressed in this article are those of the author and not necessarily those of The Lahore Times.

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